We’ve all seen the videos . . . a woman reading her cell phone trips face first into the decorative water fountain at the mall. Or a man looking at his cell phone walks straight into a light pole. The images aren’t pretty, but let’s be honest, we often find ourselves torn between feeling humiliated for the person and stifling a slight giggle, all the same.

Luckily, there’s another way to use cell phones that can be a lot more private and, dare I say, satisfying? Hear me out on this one — one of the complaints women often have is that they worry that they take a lot longer to get in the mood than their partner. And being self-conscious about how long it takes can often only exacerbate the problem.

But what both men and women often don’t realize is that foreplay can start hours before, even when they are miles apart! Yes, of course foreplay is laying in bed and lingering while lovingly staring into each others eyes and yada yada.

What if instead of thinking of foreplay as only occurring in the minutes before lovemaking, you start that morning, while you aren’t even together? So, for example, instead of texting a list of all the mundane things you want your husband to pick up on the way home, you sweeten the deal by listing what article of clothing you will remove for each item on the list? Or what if you text flashbacks of an especially sexy evening you had while on vacation, but tell your wife that you are going to do a variation of it later that night, but will leave it to her to fill in the blanks?

I think you see where I’m going with this . . .