If you could be a fly on the wall in bedrooms throughout the world, you’d be stunned to see how many women fake orgasms, even with men they’ve been married to for decades. Are women really that deceitful? Think again. Actually, the answer virtually always comes down to our anatomy, and how we were designed.

In a word, the most sensitive part of the man’s body is the underside of the shaft, near the tip of his penis. For the woman, on the other hand, it’s the clitoris. The problem is that because the clitoris is located outside the vagina, intercourse is usually not as intense for women as it is for men. In fact, studies indicate that a large majority of women are unable to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone.

As you can imagine, because most people aren’t taught basic human anatomy, misunderstandings in bed continually result. For example, women often fake orgasms because they don’t want to hurt their partner’s feelings or they don’t think it’s worth the longer time and effort it would take to actually have one. This type of deception can poison an intimate relationship, which is unfortunate, because it could so easily be resolved if both people understood the difference between male and female physiology. Needless to say, communication between partners is the key to developing a fulfilling and warm sexual relationship.

So if both men and women just internalized this one physiological fact and truly understood how it inevitably impacts a woman’s sexuality, it could be a real game changer. In fact, I dare say that it would allow women who don’t want to continue the façade to finally come clean, as it were.