One of the hardest things for some women to admit is that they’ve never had an orgasm, and they often assume that they are the only ones. Actually, a woman’s ability to achieve an orgasm is much more complex than a man’s, and often requires just the right ambience, to say nothing of technique.

One of the best ways for women to learn how to have an orgasm is to lay comfortably in their bathtub with a bath pillow under their head, and let a warm stream of water flow over their clitoris, ideally using a hand-held shower wand. It may take quite a few times in order for you to discover what feels good for you, but usually the warm stream of water alone will allow you to have an orgasm.

Once you have learned what it feels like, a surprisingly easy and sexy trick your partner can do to get you warmed up is to intentionally withhold caressing your vaginal area and clitoris while focusing everywhere else, so that you practically have to plead with him to finally let you climax.

After you have experienced what works for you, the next time you are with your partner and he teases you long enough that you are beside yourself with anticipation, a fun product to try is a warming lubricant (sometimes referred to as warming jelly or liquid). If used properly, ie. applying just the right amount so that it doesn’t get too hot, it can be incredibly beneficial in helping you to have an orgasm. But if you are trying to conceive, the only type of lubricant that will not harm sperm is PreSeed. So save the warming lubricant for the phases of your cycle when you are not fertile.

So may your next bath be beautiful one.