Older Mama's Hopes - All Comments

re: Yes, I am older - SO WHAT!

McKeiser — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 14:25:01 GMT

I am glad you posted too. I am 40 and got married a month before my Birthday. I have actually found people very supportive. I find that there are so many younger people out there who are less healthy and fit. I don't feel 40 (and am told I don't look it) and have so much love to give and feel that's what's most important. Even, and this is the the real point here isn't it, it means I may not be in my child's life as long as someone younger. Then again, if I stay healthy, I might. Many of my relatives have lived up into their 100's!

I know it is hard for me to hear how easy it is for some of my friends' to get pregnant, and it's understandable that feeling might not go away for a while. I am sure it will once you have your baby girl/boy in your arms. I have even heard that women that have had trouble getting pregnant, are sometimes even happier (patient?) once they become mothers because they waited so long. In our cases, I hope that's true!

Sounds like you're a trooper; surviving cancer, having a baby, being an "older mom" Congratulations! What more could a little one want in a mom? :)

re: Yes, I am older - SO WHAT!

cmaucerii — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 18:39:27 GMT

I'm glad you posted about this issue! i am 39, 40 in a few weeks. i have a 19 yr old son, but have been a single parent his whole life and only recently married in March of this year. We were pregnant but i miscarried at 7 wks in January and i have been in super TTC mode ever since. i feel like my time is running out because of everyone around me saying i'm too old to have a baby now-hence the miscarriage! People can be cruel and like you said its nice that "those" people's lives all worked out on their time schedules, but we are late bloomers so to speak and should be encouraged and supported just like any other women regardless of age or health issues.

its nice to see other women that have the same issues and feelings in this journey, thanks again for posting!

re: The journey continues

amberbamber — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 04:31:02 GMT

i'm so sorry for your loss...i'll pray for you and your future fertility attempts

re: Yes, I am older - SO WHAT!

mini_bit — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 15:45:21 GMT

Thank you for your comments. I was at my mil's house a couple of weeks ago and she was complaining that someone who was 45 was going to have a baby. I turn 38 this year and only got married 18 months ago. So having children at 45 is a possibility for me. I am still trying to figure out how to feel about all this.

Again Thank you.

re: The journey continues

Star.H — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 16:31:54 GMT

I understand you grief. I know the feeling of a semi-closure. You start to move on, yet you still have that ache in your heart where you babies where.

I have found that many people in my life do not understand. They think that because I lost my two babies early that I should be "over it" by now and moving on. Just because we didn't see our babies doesn't make them less our children. We love them and grieve for them.

I will be praying for you and your family.

re: It will be wonderful if it doesn't

lemonbasil — Fri, 14 May 2010 19:52:30 GMT

I am still here, I just ducked out of the 2WW and waiting groups for a bit. Thank you for your kind comments turtlemom.

re: It will be wonderful if it doesn't

turtlemom — Fri, 14 May 2010 03:42:15 GMT

oh wow. This brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful post. I am so sorry for your losses and hope and pray your daughter can have a new brother or sister soon :)

I got to the end and said, "Oh! it's lemonbasil!" I am fairly new on here but must have seen you in 2WW or 35+? Not sure what is happening you with now, but I wish you the best!