This is just something that bothers me to no end, yes, I am almost 40, yes, I have a daughter that is two, and yes, if we can, we'd love to have more. That being said, why do people need to point out that being an older parent isn't desirable?

I was reading the gossip sites this weekend and saw that a famous singer is pregnant with twins after IVF, yeah for her and family I say! What I hated seeing were the comments that people posted to the story about the couples age and their health. Why do people feel the need to let women who are older and pregnant or TTC what their wonderful opinions are? I was sadden to see that one poster had stated "Why would medical staff allow anyone with health issues go through IVF?" (not being able to conceive on their own at that age they stated was the main "health issue" for this couple they felt). That just irritated me to no end and brought me back to what I hear from some people as an older mama and someone who is TTC.

Why do people feel the need to open their mouths and let you know that you are way too old to be having kids? My own family is perfectly fine with my husband and I hoping to grow our family. It hasn't been the easiest journey, but as I stated earlier it's not as rough as what some of you other ladies have gone through and experienced. But what I do have, a sister-in-law that feels it's her place to keep telling me; usually when I am down, that "who in their right mind would ever have a child over 35?!" I am usually sitting right there as she goes on her rant about this and I can't escape. I so would love to scream, that DD of mine that you love so well? Don't forget she was born when I was 37 heading into 38. This woman hasn't yet figured out to be quiet and when the mood strikes her, she will go on and on about older mamas and how she'd "never put herself in that position, EVER". I am so glad that her life has worked out perfectly and in the time frame she allotted herself. Whatever. 

Yes, I am a bit flippant about it all. If the world were genuinely perfect, I too would have met my husband when I was younger and I would have all my babies by now. But the world hasn't worked that way for me. I am generally pleased with the way life is coming together for me and us as a family.  I met my husband at 34, married at 35 and conceived and lost our first one at 36, had DD at 37 and most recently lost our last one 3 days before I turned 39. Before that time, I had been diagnosed with cancer, so between ages 27 and 32 I was told that I shouldn't try to have children, making sure I went into remission/cured after five years, then I could think about it. I know God has plans for us all, and mine just happens to be on a later schedule then some ladies. 

What I really wish is that the world and everyone in it would be just as excited for a woman who is 35+ and TTC/pregnant as they are for a woman at 25 TTC/pregnant. Yes, TTC has its own ups and downs for everyone, but once you get a BFP, you are over the moon, doesn't matter what age you are. Yes, as an older mama, there are more worries during pregnancy, but the medical staffs I have encountered have generally been a big cheering section for me and anyone else I have met in my age group. I come from an older mama and both my grannies had children into their mid 40s without issue, so I know it can be done and have never felt the stigma of being older until recently, usually precipitated by my SILs mouth opening. 

So in ending this, I am sorry if I offended anyone, but sometimes it needs to be said. I have met some wonderful ladies on here that are just as excited about their new journeys over 35, so cheer I do. I am also here to cheer on all those mama's and mama's2B that have been in similar situations as me. Know that you are full of moxy, that your kids will keep you young, and that there is hope and excitement in conceiving your wee one. And know that I am in your corner every time you may hear that you are too old, why would you do this and the like. Like everyone else, we'd like to expand the love that's in our hearts and all the hopes to the next little one who'd be happy to receive it. Best wishes to you all and just be happy whenever you hear that anyone is TTC/pregnant no matter what their age. It's an exciting and wonderful time that they chose to share with you!